As you begin to rebuild and create your new Inner World, you can jump start your new life by creating a new Outer World. This journey through a "Dark Night of the Soul" can actually move faster and become a wonderful exercise in self observation and environmental awareness. More often than not, people are not conscious of how they create, in their living and working environments, mirrors of their subconscious beliefs. For instance, often in my years as a consultant, many single women will have a home full of art work depicting the image of one woman, one empty chair, one animal, one of almost anything. The energy behind the unconscious collecting of such art is one of being alone. With a new awareness of what they are doing, they can begin to modify their selections and begin to create a different environment and life for themselves.
It is my sincere hope that this list will assist you and others you know in healing broken hearts and begin the journey of self awareness and self empowerment to create the life of your dreams.
BREAK-UP SHAKEUP
Shakeup
outdated environmental energies for new direction & relationships
Using the
power of Feng Shui
By Shari Clemens
1. Look for possible
causes of an unconscious desire to be alone or feel alone.
a. Art with single people, objects, or
theme.
b. Single chairs in the romance corners of
rooms.
c. Cluttered closets and cabinets that do
not allow someone else to share
your space.
d. Landscaping that has thorns, dead
plants, clutter or is unkept.
2. Decide if you live in
a home that has a missing relationship/romance corner.
3. Clear space of all
previous relationships.
a. If purchasing a new bed is not an option,
buying new sheets will help clear intimate environments in the bedroom
b. Love letters, mementos, gifts of jewelry,
etc. keep the energy of a lover ever close after a breakup. Releasing as much as possible allows new
energy to enter and freedom to manifest a new relationship.
4. Decide consciously if
a needed break for self realization is needed or a new relationship is what you
really desire.
a. If rediscovery of self is in order, placing
pictures of yourself (or symbols of things that represent your “new” self) are
great in the romance/relationship corners of each room. This sends the intention of self love and
appreciation.
b.
If you desire to find new love quickly, write lists of the qualities you want
to manifest in a new relationship and put in the romance/relationship
corners. Pairs of anything are a good
way to send your intentions for a partner.
5. Be kind to
yourself.
a.
Treat yourself with gifts, experiences, dates that you would like to have
shared with a new relationship. This can
be with yourself or someone new. Flowers
in the house are a great way to start.
b.
Add splashes of bright cheerful color to your space. Pillows, colored vases, minerals, etc. are
useful in transforming our living spaces into new, exciting and happy places to
be after a long and trying day.
6. In Asian medicine,
we hold grief in our lungs. Help
yourself breathe better to release the pain of grief and loss.
a.
Air purifiers are a great help in any household. They are special aids when we
are going thru a grieving process. They
help lighten the air we breathe and clear it of toxins and pollutants that can
hinder our physical/emotional healing.
b. Stargazer lilies, jasmine, gardenias and
other sweet smelling flowers in the house makes us take deep breaths to enjoy
their wonderful fragrances. Consciously,
we can say to ourselves “I breathe in the sweetness of life”.
7. Crystal therapy aids
in the restoration of happiness and self love.
a. Apache Tears are very good friends to carry
with you when you are grieving. Put them
next to you or hold them while you watch TV.
They are also share their gifts when you put them next to your bed at
night or sleep with them under your pillow.
b. Malachite is a re-balancer of heart
energy. It is great in healing the heart
chakra of trauma and drama.
c. Turquoise is another aid in supporting the
lungs where we may be holding emotions of grief.
d. Rose quartz brings in love for both yourself
and aids in finding true love from a partner.
8. Be careful not to
create love triangles.
a. Walk
through your home and office and see if you have arranged art, furniture, or
accessories
in groups of three. These groupings,
especially in romance corners, can create love triangles that are rarely
pleasant.
9. Watch what you read and listen to.
a. Become very aware of what books, magazines
and general reading material you have
in your
environment and what you are reading during this time in your life. Lonesome Dove,
Men
are from Mars, Women are from Venus, or Nobody’s
Darling are not the kind of energy conducive to manifesting romance in your
life.
b. Music is also important in creating the love
life that you wish to create. Stay away
from
music that speaks of ‘love lost’ or ‘wounded hearts’. Listening over and over to that kind
of
message will certainly keep a lonely person in a single mind set. Flood your house with melodies of eternal
love, beautiful meetings, joyful reunions, etc.
Create through music that relationship
you wish
to be a part of.
10. Design a new, fresh start for
yourself.
a. New beginnings can be challenging but they can
also be really exciting! A great way to
set the intention to wipe the past clean and begin anew is PAINT! New colors can shift your entire perspective
on life. Go happy colors! Try to stay away for “ordinary” or earth
tones. Also don’t go with blue tones at
this time. (There is a reason depression
is called the “blues”. Blue is a color
that is known to often create sadness and depression if used in large doses in
our environment.
b. If you live in an apartment where painting is
out of the question, buy a new bedspread, recover dining room chair seats,
change throw pillows and throw rugs.
These are simple solutions that will create an entirely new environment
to more closely resemble the new You that you are creating!
